Okay I'm looking for some help and advise. I have a problem with Guilt and Shame. I feel the best I have felt in about 8 years. I'm very Happy, and content with my life. I still worry, get scared, and have some anxiety once in awhile. The thing is I'm a little uncomfortable being really happy. I feel guilty being happy when so many others, are miserable. I get a little anxiety or scared for being content. I'm so use to being stressed, angry, tired, depressed, or running from something, for so long that that's more my comfort zone. So... if anybody has some suggestions for me to get rid of my guilt, for feeling Good, I'm listening. (or reading in this case)
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you can be happy all the time its ok
i like you happy
love
matt
"Until we are able to focus on the Light we will always stumble around in the darkness of defeat".
There is no short easy answer to the question that you have poised.
However, the only for sure thing I know is that if we are willing to completely trust in the power and love that Christ has we can rid ourselves of anything we may be struggling with.
This takes time. Give your self sometime to be in this new "happy" phase. I promise that it will soon begin to feel comfortable again and you will eventually never want to return to the comfort of darkness. That darkness which you fell more comfortable in now will soon become very uncomfortable again.
Keep doing what you are doing! You are almost there!! Keep believing in yourself and your loving Heavenly Father. Remember he will always defeat that darkness! Always.
Love,
Brandi
I sent you an email giving you another reason to be guilt free and happy happy!
I think the trick is to know when one should feel guilty and when one should not. You shouldn't feel guilty for someone else's actions, suffering, choices, etc unless you have a cause in it. If you do feel guilty becasue of your role in another's suffereing, that kind of guilt is a good thing because it can lead to godly sorrow which can lead to true repentence and powerful change.
But I think you have verbalized something even more important than the guilt itself. Having guilt, shame and depression as a security blanket. When you have lived that long with negative feelings they most definately become a strong wall around your heart that is easily confused with safety and comfort. In my experience, hit the wall as hard as you can and bump it crooked so the Savior can knock it down. You won't have the stength on your own to knock it down but you do have to get it started.
Does that make sense?
Sandy,
You have come so far. You have lived with the guilt so long it has become a learned behavior pattern. To be able to be happy and not feel guilty you have to forgive yourself. Your Heavenly Father will forgive you, so you have to forgive yourself. Only then can you enjoy feeling happy again. Guilt has a way of over taking our lives we live in darkness and just kind of wait to see it the sun will shine again. We have some happy moments clouded by the soon to come darkness. I know a little about this but you have to forgive yoursel. Love you,
Merrilee
What I know, "Jesus loves me".
As a child of God I know that the two greatest events in history are:
the Atonement and the Resurrection.
"Man is that he may have joy.".
Christians Be happy!
We imperfect people all suffer from guilt and shame because of our imperfection, we just have different degrees and ways of it affecting us. How sad our Creator Jehovah has had to witness suffering for thousands of years, yet he is called the "Happy God" at 1 Tim 1:11. We need to get to know his thoughts and purposes so we too can have true happiness. How? By reading and meditating on his written word the Bible and through the example of his Son Jesus who reflected his Father's qualities perfectly. Put faith in Jesus ransom sacrifice knowing that we can be forgiven because of the price he paid. I will later write about King David and how he was plagued with a guilty heart and how he dealt with it. My love to you.
lookin' pretty good in that pic, sandy. you been workin' it out? by the way, i figure if you want my advice you'll ask me. otherwise, it's just good to have you as a sister in law.
you know i always have a comment or two up my sleeve. some of it might even be worthwhile...
i want to be skinny like you
i e-mailed all my comments regarding this post- you did get them right? it was alot of info.
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